Semi-Feral Mama posted this link and it's probably the best opinion I've read on international adoption. I Found myself agreeing with Cornell on every point. It was a relief to have someone put into such eloquent words what I had been grappling with for over a year and a half. But it was this paragraph in particular that really floored me:
"The way I think of it now is that my own action was what the literary theorist Gayatri Chakravorty Spivak has called an 'enabling violation.' I enabled my daughter’s life by adopting her, but in another sense it was a violation for my daughter, who was uprooted from her home, her language and her country of birth. I may have violated the people of Paraguay by participating in an adoption process that the vast majority of Paraguayans deeply disapproved of and ultimately sought to end. I have of course tried to make sure that my daughter always knew the story, not only of her adoption, but of what I could gather of her birth mother’s decision. But I will never feel at ease until my daughter and I visit her birth mother and hear it directly from her."
Also, a list of events that Dr. John Raible is speaking at. Someday I really hope to catch him.